There is something that I figured out quite some time ago and it’s really the opposite of what often time is promoted. I’ve realized that success is never really “self-made”. As much as we hear it, it’s just a big myth. You can be responsible for a dream that leads you to success, but rarely if ever will you be able to put that dream in action alone. What you’ll realize is that we need each other. We need a good mentor, we need those missionaries to run with. Trying to do it all by yourself will eventually just build a big hole. The biggest asset for you would be to build a team. Being a solopreneur is great if it suits you in the beginning, but trying to do everything by yourself when you grow to the point that it’s really stressing you out is no way to run a business. You never want to put on yourself more than you can handle, and the problem is sometimes we don’t know how much it is that we can’t handle until it’s too late. To become a true leader, you will not be defined by leading just your life, but putting others or your team on the path to greatness and crossing the finish line with them.
Often, I surround myself with people who have achieved massive amounts of success. When I’m around them I sit back and take time to just listen. I get to see the distinct pattern of actions that differentiate them from everyone else.
I don’t say that to insist that one person is greater than the next in any way because we are all created equally. However, what I do refer to is how they think and go about their lives.
Confucius once said, “The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”
If you sit back and look at the most successful people in every field whether it be athletes, speakers, entrepreneurs, or authors on thing holds true. They made a commitment to excellence and went after it relentlessly. Constantly striving for excellence in every area of your life is ultimately what will determine the quality of your life, no matter what you do for a living.
Staying committed to the core values and excellence is what shaped most of the most successful companies. When an average athlete excels, and becomes great it’s due to his/her commitment to excellence. By simply making a commitment to excellence, and going after it each day with a never give up mindset, and ordinary person becomes a person with extraordinary success. It won’t happen overnight but if you just strive to do better, excellence is the gradual result.
There is one and only one person that can answer that question, and that person is you. I believe that one of the most important key steps to achieving success in life is to simply know the meaning of success for your personal life. The true definition of success is much deeper that the surface level meaning that leads to an image, such as having a lot of money, being wealthy, having a lot of tangibles and earned degrees. Not saying that successful people may not have these things, but it’s not the end all be all in terms of success. On the other hand, I believe the core of true success in life cannot be measured with the above-named factors, but instead with the amount of people that can live a better and more advanced life because of what you created. You are put on this earth to change it. You never want to just exist. This is the meaning of success. Instead people get caught up collecting the trophies of life. In today’s day and age, society and the social media influence leads us to often conclude that living a successful life means to be extraordinarily wealthy and have a lot of tangibles. To some sitting down and having a family dinner is a success and that makes them no less successful just because of the absent intangibles. But the meaning of success is waking up happy with the person in the mirror that is actively pursuing your vision and version of success. Determine what your success is and go get that.
“A successful life is one that is lived through understanding and pursuing one’s own path, not chasing after the dreams of others”. – Chin-Ning Chu
Throughout the course of my life, I can vividly recall many rock bottom scenarios. My parents separating, losing loved ones, breakups, not getting a scholarship to my dream school, financial hardships, and being released by NFL teams after giving it my all. But honestly throughout it all, I’ve learned so many valuable life lessons that I’ll never give back.
1.Only Way to Go is Up
While rock bottom for every person is different, there is one thing that holds true when you hit it. You’re there. You’ve reached that point where you can’t go any lower. This means one thing, and that is that the odds are no in your favor. You have one direction you can go and that up. You can build that amazing life you’ve dreamed starting from the foundation up so lets build.
- Be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
The most consistent thing in life is change. Good thing about that is that as humans we grow the most when we are faced with some type of change. When you use the changes that life throws at you in the correct way, you become an unstoppable force.
- The Best Things in Life are FREE
Strange but the things that we get for free in life we place little value on. Your mind is one of those things. When hitting rock bottom, I was finally at a point where I could see value in the free things life has to offer. The sky, the oceans, hearing the wind blow, talking to friends and getting advice, giving advice, telling the people you love that you love them, smiling, laughing, writing, and reading. Start to place more value on these things and life will begin to shift.
- Confronting Issues
When you hit that low point, it forces you to look back at all the decisions you’ve made and see where you’ve went wrong. It’s like you must use a magnifying glass to depict everything about the life you’ve previously lived. You lean so many things through this process that allows you to enter a space where you never go back.
- The Choice is Yours
You have a choice on how you chose to respond to a rock bottom scenario. You can either choose to confront it head on or make excuses and blame others for the situation. There will be things that you can change, and things that you can’t. Where you channel your energy is going to determine the direction your life goes in next. Regardless always be realistic with yourself, and real results will follow.
- What Do You Have to Lose?
When you have nothing, you have nothing to lose. Your safety net is gone so leap out. That business that you always wanted to start but found excuses not to. That book you always said you would write years down the line. The trips you always wanted to just take a backpack and go on. Nothing is stopping you from doing those things, and you will find yourself through the process of doing them. Just begin with action towards them and let the ripple effect take place.
Let your rock bottom moment be the catapult to your success. Let it define you but only in a positive way. You can only go up, but how high will you go?
It’s hard to trust someone that never lives up to their word. Those people who can talk with the best of them, but don’t walk that talk. You can always tell when someone is more of a talker than a doer. The proof is in the putting and results driven by action will always outweigh talking. Don’t just talk about it. Be it. Every. Single. Day. If you decide to set plans, work after them and crush them. If you don’t get through your whole To Do list, it’s no worries — what matters is that you show up for those ideas and plans every day. Take it seriously, a little pressure on yourself is healthy, but also know that it’s a daily practice of showing up big. At the end of the day you will be judged by what you’ve accomplished not what you set out to accomplish. You decided on a predetermined ideal and made it happen. Practice what you preach always no matter the situation. The goal in life is to win, not to just look like you’re winning. Now let’s go win every single.
Don’t just get up with the people, rise before the people and that alone begins to set you apart. Waking up after noon just because you have the day off, or don’t have to be at work until late isn’t the most impressive thing. Working early isn’t for everyone so don’t pursue that route if it doesn’t suit you, but humans are built to rise when the sun comes up. Make that conscious effort to be more human, and you’ll start to realize right away that your days are more productive simply because you have more time in them. Rising before everyone else will give you time to yourself to not only develop your mind to grow daily but start putting those pieces together to build your personal empire. This morning time is key. It’s a great time to workout with a clear mind, fuel your body with proper foods, and enhance your mind. How you prepare for each day adds up. It’s a marathon so just keep stacking the small success until they amount to massive success. If you were running for president, would you jump right into election day, without any campaigning, with sweatpants on, having slept in until 1pm? Nope. So get up and lets attack each day in that fashion.
I know we’ve all heard the slogan “You are what you think about most”. It’s a crazy concept to grasp but your mind really dictates your reality. What you think about most is what your life will manifest into. The neat thing about the mind is that it doesn’t care what you plant in it, however whatever it is that you plant is what you will see sprout in your reality. There is a practice called neuroplasticity where science has proven our ability to rewire our own brains, through changing our thought patterns and engaging in practices like meditation. Imagine that, you can literally program yourself for success. Who wouldn’t take advantage of that? Positive thinking is imperative. Nobody is going to be positive 100% of the time, we’re human, but making an effort to shift your perspective consistently is going to impact your life in ways you can’t imagine. Take care of yourself, show gratitude in all situations, stop worrying, eliminate negative thoughts, and transition from the taker to the giver. These are all essential cornerstones of positive thinking. All in all if you believe it, the battle is already won. Change your thoughts to change your life.